Stop the wars over messy bedrooms with this simple organizing strategy.
By Ann Springer
Most parents would likely agree that getting their kids to pick up their bedrooms can be more work than just doing it themselves. We all know that method is a losing battle. The kids will never learn to be responsible if everything is done for them. Besides, what parent wants to pick up after their kids all the time?
Not sure where to start? With the right system in place, the possibility for a tidy room is definitely a possibility. Below are a couple steps to getting kids rooms or toy rooms under control.
1) Start in the master bedroom. In case you didn’t already know this, kids pick up on everything. If your bedroom isn’t clean you can’t really expect to hold your offspring to the same standard. I’ve noticed that the tidier my room is, the cleaner my children’s rooms tend to be. Resist the urge to come up with adult-sized excuses and instead tackle your own mess first. Credibility goes a long way in holding kids accountable.
2) Every year – twice a year. I adopt a model in which our kids donate one item from their room for every new item that they receive. This philosophy keeps inventory from exploding in our children’s room. So, when you’re child is begging for that Happy Meal toy ask them, “If I buy this for you, what toy in your room will you donate?” If carried out, this method can be an effective way to keep kids from always wanting new items. It also helps them part with items they don’t really use anymore. Additionally, I recommend sorting through every item in their room about twice a year (preferable around the holidays and birthdays). We use this time to repair items, replace batteries, toss items we can’t donate, and pass on others that are in good order still. At the end of the process we usually have at least one bag full of donations and another full of trash yet their room still looks full and their faces show pride and joy.
3) Preventing a pack rat. We’re all naturally inclined to want things and to cherish the items we have, but it’s not the things that bring us happiness, it’s our connection to what they represent that makes us happy. Teaching children to let go of possessions helps prevent materialism and donating them to others helps them to be unselfish. Achieving an orderly space for your kids to call their own may require letting go of items in which you have excess. How many t-shirts can one third-grader really wear? How many stuffed animals does your toddler really play with? We’ve found it’s easiest for our children to “donate” loved items to others when they can see where they’re going. We regularly drop off bags to families with younger children and watch them play with the hand-me-downs with excitement. You may also want to take a trip to your local thrift store, or shelter, to show kids where the donation bags ultimately end up.
4) Organization is a skill. Once you’ve cleared out and whittled down their toys and clothes to a manageable level it’s time to give it all a home. If you can establish a logical home for all of the items then you’re children should be able to easily follow through and maintain the system. After doing a quick inventory you may realize you need to purchase additional storage solutions. Check out organizational items everywhere, from hardware stores to big box super stores. You never know where you’ll find the bookshelf, toy box, or other system you need to get your room in check. Sort toys by the type of toy they are and then label each bin. For young children you may have to use pictures of the contents if they aren’t old enough to read. Introducing children as young as 2 and 3 to sorting toys is a natural time to begin because toddlers love to sort and organize as they work on their brain development.
5) Pile on the praise. If they clean up their Connect Four game when they’re done without being asked, or they do a great job putting the Barbie collection away, I am always quick to give them kudos. It’s always best to catch to take a positive approach when possible. So catch them doing something good so they’ll be more likely to repeat a good behavior instead of a bad one. It’s often easier said than done unfortunately because it’s easier to recognize a messy room than to notice a neat one. Using TV or computer time, or whatever currency your children bartar with, as a reward is a great incentive, but piling on the praise and love from Mom or Dad also goes a long way in motivating children.
